Depression:
can happen when a person has losses connected with the trauma situation
or when a person avoids other people and becomes isolated.
Despair
and hopelessness:
can happen when a person is afraid that he or she will never feel
better again.
Loss
of important beliefs:
can happen when a traumatic event makes a person lose faith that the
world is a good and safe place.
Aggressive
behavior toward oneself or others:
can happen due to frustration over the inability to control PTSD symptoms
(feeling that PTSD symptoms "run your life"). It can also
happen when other things that happened at the time of trauma made
the person angry (the unfairness of the situation). Some people are
aggressive because they grew up with people who lashed out when they
were angry and never taught them how to cope with angry feelings.
Because angry feelings keep people away, they also stop a person from
having positive connections and getting help. Anger and aggression
can cause job problems, marital and relationship problems, and loss
of friendships.
Self-blame,
guilt, and shame:
can happen when PTSD symptoms make it hard to fulfill current responsibilities.
It can also happen when people fall into the common trap of second-guessing
what they did or didn't do at the time of a trauma. Many people, in
trying to make sense of their experience, blame themselves. This is
usually completely unfair. At best, it fails to take into account
the other reasons why the events occurred. Self-blame causes a lot
of distress and can prevent a person from reaching out for help. Society
sometimes takes a "blame-the-victim" attitude, and this
is wrong.
Getting
into arguments and fights:
can happen because of the angry or aggressive feelings that are common
after a trauma. Also, a person's constant avoidance of social situations
(such as family gatherings) may annoy family members.
Less
interest or participation in things the person used to like to do:
can happen because of depression following a trauma. Spending less
time doing fun things and being with people means a person has less
of a chance to feel good and have pleasant interactions.
Social
isolation:
can happen because of social withdrawal and a lack of trust in others.
This often leads to loss of support, friendship, and intimacy, and
grows fears and worries.
Problems
with identity:
can happen when PTSD symptoms change important things in a person's
life, like relationships or whether a person can do your work well.
It can also happen when other things that happened at the time of
trauma make a person confused about their own identity. For instance
a person who thinks of himself as unselfish might think he acted selfishly
by saving himself during a disaster. This might make him question
whether he is really who he thought he was.
Feeling
permanently damaged:
can happen when trauma symptoms don't go away and a person doesn't
think they will get better.
Problems
with self-esteem:
can happen because PTSD symptoms make it hard for a person to feel
good about him or herself. Sometimes, because of things they did or
didn't do at the time of trauma, survivors feel that they are bad,
worthless, stupid, incompetent, evil, and so on.
Physical
health symptoms and problems:
can happen because of long periods of physical agitation or arousal
from anxiety. Trauma survivors may also avoid medical care because
it reminds them of their trauma and causes anxiety, and this may lead
to poorer health. Habits used to cope with post-traumatic stress,
like alcohol use, can also cause health problems. Also, other things
that happened at the time of trauma may cause health problems (for
example, an injury).
Alcohol
and/or drug abuse:
can happen when a person wants to avoid bad feelings that come with
PTSD symptoms, or when other things that happened at the time of trauma
lead a person to take drugs. This is a common way to cope with upsetting
trauma symptoms, but it actually leads to more problems.
Remember:
Although
PTSD symptoms and other trauma-related problems may take up most of
a person's attention when they are suffering, people who have PTSD
also have strengths, interests, commitments, relationships with others,
past experiences that were not traumatic, desires, and hopes for the
future.
Treatments
are available for individuals with PTSD and associated trauma-related
symptoms.
Understanding
the effects of trauma on relationships can also be an important step
for family members or friends.